This is Why Bad Things Will Always Happen to Good People

It’s a common question…

Why do bad things happen to good people?

If you’ve been following my blog, you know that my husband and I recently experienced a miscarriage. It has been almost 7 months ago to the day. June 21, 2017. That will forever be the day that sucked the most.

That was the most awful day of my life, and it has been followed with many more truly awful days. Recovering (emotionally) from a miscarriage is hard, y’all. You see, I have always felt so strongly called to motherhood, and miscarrying or not being able to have children at all was, and is still, my

G R E A T E S T    F E A R.

And guess what?

Satan capitalized on that fear.

In the past 7 months I have felt myself asking questions like

“why do bad things happen to good people?”

“Why would God put something like motherhood so heavily on my heart, only to snatch it away?”

I grew up in a Christian home, and I think a common ideology that many Christians have is that God makes all of the bad things happen for one of two reasons: either He caused them to happen as a punishment for your wrongdoings, or He caused them to happen in order to teach you something.

And we’re supposed to find comfort in that???

While those answers may hold true in some circumstances, I couldn’t believe they were true for us in our circumstance. Our baby was a blessing from God, NOT a punishment for wrongdoing. I could see how He may have caused me to miscarry in order to teach us something, but I still wasn’t sold. I grew up knowing that I was a child of God, that I had a Father in Heaven who loved me deeply! I know what it’s like to experience the unending Love of Christ, and I just could not believe that a God who loved me enough to take my place on the cross would purposefully cause me to have so much pain and heartache.

So I turned to a trusted sister in Christ and to His word for help.

What I discovered, changed my life. But it’s funny because in retrospect, the answer has always been right there in front of my nose… I guess I just had to walk through the fire in order to see it for what it truly was.

“The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.”   — Exodus 14:14

(emphasis mine)

How many times in my life have I read or heard this verse used?! I’d say at least a couple dozen! But yet, I STILL didn’t get it!

It’s a battlefield. It’s spiritual warfare. It’s The Enemy throwing fiery curve balls at me that hit that one little bitty chink in my armor, the place where it hurts the most, the place where it will do the most damage. But the Lord is fighting for me!

The Lord is fighting for me!

The Lord is fighting for me!

The Lord is fighting for me!

The Lord is fighting for me!

Still not convinced? Take a look at these other verses.

“Do not be afraid of them; the Lord your God himself will fight for you.”  –Deuteronomy 3:22

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”  — Deuteronomy 31:6

“What, then, shall we say in response to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?”  — Romans 8:31

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”  — Romans 8:28

“Through you we push back our enemies; through your name we trample our foes…….but you give us victory over our enemies, you put our adversaries to shame.”  — Psalm 44:5-7

“…the Lord your God fights for you, just as he promised.”  — Joshua 23:10

I picture it like this…

There’s an ongoing battle between good and evil for your soul. The Enemy throws a punch like loss of a loved one, disease, financial issues, or rejection. But the Lord of Lords, the King of Kings, is right there fighting for you. He “works for the good of those who love him” (Romans 8:28). He turns that punch into something good, something that YOU can use to further HIS kingdom, something that brings Him glory.

Excuse me while I nerd out for a second, but this is what I picture. A legit battle.


God didn’t cause the pain you’re in. It’s not a punishment. Maybe you sinned, and maybe there is a consequence for that sin. But it’s because Satan threw a punch at you called temptation. He saw a chink in your armor and exploited it. But God is using that punch, that temptation, that sin, that loss, that awful awful thing as an opportunity for you to draw nearer to Him.

And when you draw nearer to Him, there becomes less chinks in your armor for The Enemy to exploit.

The Lord IS fighting for you. You need only to be still.